The Lowdown, Vol. 5

I’ve been getting a lot of “How are you?”s lately from friends and family. It’s sort of like when I was going through my separation twelve years ago – the same concern is there, the wishing they could help, the commiserating over things not going according to plan. I had hoped to share some of the school year custody with Nigel and Aidan’s dad by moving to where he lives, and that, as most of you know, didn’t happen. At this point, the bottom line is nothing new. I’ve been doing this (full-time single parenting) for nine years, and I guess I can just keep doing it. But I will tell you this – it doesn’t get easier. The boys don’t get up much during the night now of course, but the days. Oh, man, the too-full days just about kill me. The strain just builds and builds. By now I feel like I’ve got a piano on my back.

For most of this year (and some of last), I had been searching for a life coach, just wanting help in figuring out how to approach my life so that I would feel less overwhelmed. I’d read about various life coaches on friends’ blogs and would come across a few online, but none of them felt right for me. One day a few months ago, Eithne left a comment on one of my posts. She linked to her website, and as soon as I clicked over, I knew that she was the one.  Through her excellent coaching I am learning to prioritize my life according to what I value, and I definitely feel that I now have the tools to enable myself to feel less overwhelmed. To anyone looking for a life coach, I highly recommend her!

Last, but certainly not least, I recently received a lovely new (or new to me) blog award:

Isn’t it cool? I love the design. And I also love the cool blog from whence it came: Big Daddy Autism. Thanks, Big Daddy! If you haven’t checked him out yet, head on over there for some much-needed humor and some thought-provoking posts.

Apparently in accepting this award, I must reveal seven things about myself. So I’ll follow Big Daddy’s example and mention the following:

1) I have two tattoos, a tiger and a Celtic knot. The tiger has been on my arm for ten years, and it’s really beautiful. During the summer I receive many compliments on both of them.

2) I have written and published a novel, and I’m (slowly) working on my next one.

3) My eyes are green with gold flecks in them.  Sometimes they appear to be hazel.

4) I have driven the same car for over ten years, and it feels like an extension of myself. I love it like I would a horse.

5) My favorite hobby is winetasting. So much so that I wanted to put a bocce court in my backyard because it’s the only sport you can play and not have to put down your wine glass.

6) I have sustained three major injuries from one of my other hobbies – snowboarding. I can assure you that no wine was involved, although it certainly was afterward.

7) I drink green smoothies every morning for breakfast. A green smoothie in the morning and a glass of wine at night – it’s all about balance!

There you have it. I’d do the tagging thing, but I have a big IEP meeting tomorrow morning (more on that next week), and must use the rest of my evening to prepare. You know how it is.

Cheers, everyone!

24 thoughts on “The Lowdown, Vol. 5

  1. AUNTastasia

    Of course I miss you here in LA but I’m glad you have new reasons to enjoy staying in Oregon (and he’s a very GOOD reason, too!).
    PS: Heard of Cornhole?? That’s another similar lawn sport where it’s frowned upon if you put down your glass.

  2. Jacquie

    Great post.
    never saw that one coming. did he lower his commission? lol
    In all honesty, there’s not a health nut bone in my body, so I think I would need the wine, before the smoothie…

  3. Elizabeth

    What a terrific post — and you are so deserving of the award.

    I absolutely ADORE the story about your house and the man you are dating!

    Good luck with the IEP —

  4. Lex Savko

    I’m so glad to hear about the happiness you are finding there. We’ll have to talk more later, especially regarding your latest winetasting adventure!

  5. Alexis McConnell

    Congratulations on your award.

    My daughter is trying to relocate to San Francisco. She will be renting her home out in Virginia…maybe in her quest for new adventures she may meet someone, as you did.
    Hope this gentlemen makes you happy and you two share wonderful moments together.

  6. Carrie N

    I don’t know which ‘first of all’ to begin with.

    I love the tone of this post. You seem content, despite your plans having taken unexpected turns.

    Dating your real estate agent! That’s great. At the very least, it’s a wonderfully timed distraction and then who knows!

    Have you been to the Fingerlakes region of New York? If you’re ever looking for a beautiful, fun, relaxing place to vacation, and taste some wonderful wine, I recommend it to you. There are wine trails around the lakes with views to die for, and then there are the lakes themselves.

    Congratulations on your well deserved award, and on a great start to plan B.

  7. Michelle O.


    So happy to hear things are looking up for you. Door closes/window opens/yada yada.



  8. Carrie

    I’m grinning from ear-to-ear! That makes perfect sense why you needed to “try” and move. You just needed to find the realtor! PERFECT!

  9. Alicia D

    ok, loads of stuff in this post!! holy cow! so, dating hmmmm???? VERY interesting 😉 im happy for you!

    and congrats on your well deserved bloggy award.

    most of all — um, did i miss something? WOW!! i had no idea you were an author…i have a million questions to ask you!

  10. Tanya Savko Post author

    Everyone – thank you! And thanks for the well-wishes on the IEP. It was actually one of the best ever (see the Sept. 8 post)!

    AUNTastasia – you will have to school me on Cornhole!

    Carrie N – thanks for the Fingerlakes recommendation – I’m intrigued!

  11. Brenda (mamabegood)

    Tanya – You HOT mama!! So psyched! A life coach?! Oh and the dating, too. 😉 I will be looking forward to having a life coach to get my act together … if I could just find the time …

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