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The Lowdown

From time to time I receive e-mails from readers asking how I’m doing, often about things that don’t necessarily pertain to this blog, which is totally fine. Here, I write mostly about my experiences raising my two boys, one of whom has autism. I don’t go into much personal stuff because I think of this blog as a resource for other parents. But then I realized that when I read other blogs, one of the things I truly enjoy is a post on a more personal level.  I feel like I get to know the blogger a little better, identify with him or her, and often learn something new. And since I usually enjoy reading the personal bits, I figured that some of my readers might like that too.

So, in that vein, I’ve decided to occasionally write some personal posts to address those “touching base” e-mails that I receive. For example, I am often asked how my writing is coming along, especially since I’ve been threatening to publish a book for over a year now. Well, as with everything else in my life that doesn’t have to do with work and raising kids, it’s coming along slowly. I’m close, though! Really close! I just have a few more things to iron out, and then it’s off to the printer! I had considered having another editor look at it, but I gave it some careful consideration and think that I just need to bite the bullet and get it out there. It’s time (almost).

Here’s another popular question - am I dating now? And the answer is no. I have not dated for a year. For a while now I’ve been telling myself that I don’t have time to date, which is mostly true. But I’m also not that impressed with the caliber of single men I’ve met lately. And here’s a little story to illustrate that point. Okay, so Saturday night I go out with a friend of mine, another full-time single mom. It’s been weeks since either one of us has gotten out of our homes other than for work, errands, or appointments. A band is playing at a local pub, so we sit down at the bar and have a drink. After a few minutes, the guy next to me starts chatting me up. He seems okay, apparently a recently (by my standards) single dad whose kids are the same ages as mine. He’s even from the LA area, as I am, so I think those are pretty cool things to have in common. We keep talking, and my friend joins in. The three of us talk about our six collective kids, we make jokes, we’re having a good time. And then - brace yourselves - the guy blurts out, “Yeah, I’m really over the whole kid thing.”    

Really? You’re hitting on a single mom of two kids, and you think a line like that is gonna get you anywhere?

I was so shocked that I couldn’t even say anything. My friend, however, had a few choice words to say, including, “How sad for your kids” as we turned on our heels and walked out. I mean, it’s not like I’m expecting to meet a great guy in a pub. I wasn’t expecting to meet anyone that night, nor was I wanting to. I just wanted to go out and kick back with my friend. Instead, we meet a jerk who’s been a single dad for three years and thinks he’s going to impress me by complaining about it and insulting good parents everywhere. Next!

In other news, I recently received the Friendly Blogger award from my friend Nicki at Slow Down, Gym Shoe. Nicki was a recipient of the Lemonade award that I passed on to her for her positive outlook. Thanks for this cool award, Nicki!

One of the rules for accepting the Friendly Blogger award is to post the most recent photo of yourself, so again - brace yourselves:

 

And that’s the lowdown - not much success in the writing, dating, and portrait-taking departments. Tune in for the next episode of Personal Posts, in which I’ll discuss convalescing cats, workplace gossip, and file cabinet organization! (Kidding, but who knows?)

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12 Responses to “The Lowdown”

  1. mama edge Says:

    I think your report is chockful of successes — the book is in the best of hands (your own), the dating is waiting for the right moment and right man, and the photo? Darling! Am coveting your long hair big time!

  2. Kim Says:

    I like this! I love your blog and I will truly enjoy getting to know you more! Love the pic!

  3. Nicki Says:

    So he’s a single dad and he’s over kids? Well, that can’t be good! I think dating is highly overrated anyways!!!

  4. Jess Wilson Says:

    Gee you didn’t find that dad charming? Shocking!

    Good to have the lowdown!

    XO

  5. Carrie Says:

    NEXT, is right! OMHOG! Over the whole kid thing?

  6. M Says:

    ugh, that guy. losers who overtly embrace their pathetic mild-life crisis: the worst.

  7. M Says:

    that’s supposed to say “mid-life crisis”. but a mild-life crisis is probably very similar. both are better than a mold-life crisis.

  8. CorrieHowe Says:

    Thanks for sharing something about yourself. I would’ve been like you, not knowing what to say to a guy who was so over kids.

    I’ve been curious about the TeenAutism.com bumper stickers. Have they gone well? My hubby said I could have one. BIG, BIG deal as he’s at least a second generation of “no bumper stickers on my car.”

  9. Carol Says:

    And he’s probably wondering why his wife divorced him . . .

    I love the picture!

  10. goodfountain Says:

    Thanks for sharing the low-down. Good to know more about Tanya the person. :)

  11. rhemashope Says:

    Love the picture, and I’m excited about your book!

  12. Teen Autism » Blog Archive » The Lowdown, Vol. 2 Says:

    [...] we last left off, I was not dating, and that is still the case. My co-workers and I recently had a good laugh over [...]

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