Comments on: The Long-Distance Family http://teenautism.com/2009/08/25/the-long-distance-family/ Beyond ABA, after OT . . . what now? Sat, 11 Feb 2012 20:40:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Aradia http://teenautism.com/2009/08/25/the-long-distance-family/comment-page-1/#comment-14414 Aradia Thu, 01 Oct 2009 14:22:42 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=338#comment-14414 I've noticed (who can help it?) that the already high divorce rate seems to skyrocket even higher among families where one or more children has autism. Do men just cut and run when things get rough? I hate to think that but it seems like the woman champions and protects the child while the man can't handle the stress and decides to split. I've been married for twenty-six years. It's the first marriage for both of us. We married young -- right out of college -- and we had many challenges but we stayed the course. My hubby's parents were divorced when he was in his senior year in boarding school and it really messed him up. I can still see the painful effect it had on him all these years later. I'm not condemning anyone who chooses to divorce; it's not an easy choice, but it makes me so sad for the children not to have that stability and sense of security that comes from living in the same house as both parents. I’ve noticed (who can help it?) that the already high divorce rate seems to skyrocket even higher among families where one or more children has autism. Do men just cut and run when things get rough? I hate to think that but it seems like the woman champions and protects the child while the man can’t handle the stress and decides to split.
I’ve been married for twenty-six years. It’s the first marriage for both of us. We married young — right out of college — and we had many challenges but we stayed the course. My hubby’s parents were divorced when he was in his senior year in boarding school and it really messed him up. I can still see the painful effect it had on him all these years later.
I’m not condemning anyone who chooses to divorce; it’s not an easy choice, but it makes me so sad for the children not to have that stability and sense of security that comes from living in the same house as both parents.

]]> By: Teen Autism » Blog Archive » With My Eyes Closed http://teenautism.com/2009/08/25/the-long-distance-family/comment-page-1/#comment-13754 Teen Autism » Blog Archive » With My Eyes Closed Wed, 16 Sep 2009 04:49:55 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=338#comment-13754 [...] Most of you know that I am a single parent. From mid-June to mid-August, my sons visit their father 700 miles away, and I get a much-needed break. I get some extra work done, take trips, and get a little time to myself - and time to miss my boys like crazy. Two months is too long of a break if you ask me, but we’ve been doing this for nearly eight years, so we deal with it. [...] [...] Most of you know that I am a single parent. From mid-June to mid-August, my sons visit their father 700 miles away, and I get a much-needed break. I get some extra work done, take trips, and get a little time to myself – and time to miss my boys like crazy. Two months is too long of a break if you ask me, but we’ve been doing this for nearly eight years, so we deal with it. [...]

]]> By: Bonnie Sayers http://teenautism.com/2009/08/25/the-long-distance-family/comment-page-1/#comment-13503 Bonnie Sayers Wed, 09 Sep 2009 02:27:00 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=338#comment-13503 My family is all in NJ and I moved out to CA, but we ceased communicating long ago. The kids father helped out this summer due to the camp cancelling and for the month of August he came each morning while I went to the gym. Today was the last day as tomorrow Matt starts school. Now back to regular Sat visits. Glad to read the visits have worked out so well over these past eight yrs. My family is all in NJ and I moved out to CA, but we ceased communicating long ago. The kids father helped out this summer due to the camp cancelling and for the month of August he came each morning while I went to the gym. Today was the last day as tomorrow Matt starts school. Now back to regular Sat visits.

Glad to read the visits have worked out so well over these past eight yrs.

]]> By: Tera http://teenautism.com/2009/08/25/the-long-distance-family/comment-page-1/#comment-13106 Tera Tue, 01 Sep 2009 10:41:50 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=338#comment-13106 we do lots of long-ditance too. sometimes it helps remind you of how much u love the lil buggers! :-) we do lots of long-ditance too. sometimes it helps remind you of how much u love the lil buggers! :-)

]]> By: Courtney http://teenautism.com/2009/08/25/the-long-distance-family/comment-page-1/#comment-13082 Courtney Mon, 31 Aug 2009 22:03:49 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=338#comment-13082 When I was little, my mom moved to NY, and my sister and I shuttled back and forth between NY and CA. This post was so moving. Would you believe that all these years later, I've never thought about what it felt like to my parents. Thanks for this. When I was little, my mom moved to NY, and my sister and I shuttled back and forth between NY and CA. This post was so moving. Would you believe that all these years later, I’ve never thought about what it felt like to my parents. Thanks for this.

]]> By: Alicia http://teenautism.com/2009/08/25/the-long-distance-family/comment-page-1/#comment-13064 Alicia Mon, 31 Aug 2009 12:55:24 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=338#comment-13064 Im picking up my daughter (CB) tomorrow after her 3 week long vacation with her father 2 states north from me. i miss her so much! It's the longest ive been without her, but this is what we've been doing for 8 years - every august after her summer program ends. youre right - its not what i thought it would be like when starting a family, but nothing in life has really worked out the way i thought it would. but ya know? despite the challenges, its worked out MUCH better than i ever dreamed :). Im picking up my daughter (CB) tomorrow after her 3 week long vacation with her father 2 states north from me. i miss her so much! It’s the longest ive been without her, but this is what we’ve been doing for 8 years – every august after her summer program ends. youre right – its not what i thought it would be like when starting a family, but nothing in life has really worked out the way i thought it would. but ya know? despite the challenges, its worked out MUCH better than i ever dreamed :) .

]]> By: Teen Autism » Blog Archive » Long As I Can See the Light http://teenautism.com/2009/08/25/the-long-distance-family/comment-page-1/#comment-13052 Teen Autism » Blog Archive » Long As I Can See the Light Mon, 31 Aug 2009 04:32:15 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=338#comment-13052 [...] Teen Autism Beyond ABA, after OT . . . what now? « The Long-Distance Family [...] [...] Teen Autism Beyond ABA, after OT . . . what now? « The Long-Distance Family [...]

]]> By: babs http://teenautism.com/2009/08/25/the-long-distance-family/comment-page-1/#comment-13043 babs Mon, 31 Aug 2009 00:03:23 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=338#comment-13043 I did this for years with my first family, and while it didn't get easier being without my girls, I made a concerted effort, as you certainly did this summer, to fill that time with useful activities and allowed myself to recharge so I could be better for them when they came back. :) And I'm not at all tired of your Nepalese reminiscences!! (Still jealous, though!!) I did this for years with my first family, and while it didn’t get easier being without my girls, I made a concerted effort, as you certainly did this summer, to fill that time with useful activities and allowed myself to recharge so I could be better for them when they came back. :) And I’m not at all tired of your Nepalese reminiscences!! (Still jealous, though!!)

]]> By: Anonymom http://teenautism.com/2009/08/25/the-long-distance-family/comment-page-1/#comment-13038 Anonymom Sun, 30 Aug 2009 17:55:07 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=338#comment-13038 You da' mom! You da’ mom!

]]> By: kyra http://teenautism.com/2009/08/25/the-long-distance-family/comment-page-1/#comment-13028 kyra Sun, 30 Aug 2009 11:48:35 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=338#comment-13028 i'm so impressed with you all, with your willingness to hang in there, persevere. you express such a sincere and sacred feeling of family and love, and show that it can be brought to any situation, even when it doesn't look the way we imagined it. i’m so impressed with you all, with your willingness to hang in there, persevere. you express such a sincere and sacred feeling of family and love, and show that it can be brought to any situation, even when it doesn’t look the way we imagined it.

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