Comments on: Pride and Self-Prejudice http://teenautism.com/2009/02/04/pride-and-self-prejudice/ Beyond ABA, after OT . . . what now? Sat, 11 Feb 2012 20:40:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Teen Autism » Blog Archive » Our Jetson Life http://teenautism.com/2009/02/04/pride-and-self-prejudice/comment-page-1/#comment-4330 Teen Autism » Blog Archive » Our Jetson Life Wed, 18 Feb 2009 07:22:28 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=249#comment-4330 [...] not, as I initially thought, concerning his disdain of having autism/being autistic. At least not yet - I’m sure that will come up in another year or so. His “why [...] [...] not, as I initially thought, concerning his disdain of having autism/being autistic. At least not yet – I’m sure that will come up in another year or so. His “why [...]

]]> By: Mary (MPJ) http://teenautism.com/2009/02/04/pride-and-self-prejudice/comment-page-1/#comment-3870 Mary (MPJ) Sat, 07 Feb 2009 00:19:13 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=249#comment-3870 {{{Tanya}}} It's so hard to hear that a beloved child hates any part of themselves. I haven't gotten there yet with my kids, but I remember from my childhood that then teen years involve a lot of self-criticisms and feelings of isolation. I hope it will change as he gets older. {{{Tanya}}} It’s so hard to hear that a beloved child hates any part of themselves. I haven’t gotten there yet with my kids, but I remember from my childhood that then teen years involve a lot of self-criticisms and feelings of isolation. I hope it will change as he gets older.

]]> By: Lex Savko http://teenautism.com/2009/02/04/pride-and-self-prejudice/comment-page-1/#comment-3781 Lex Savko Thu, 05 Feb 2009 19:43:18 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=249#comment-3781 I hope he gets there too. Just keep reinforcing those positive moments, like when he took apart your computer keyboard to let it dry out and then put it back together. That's definitely an example that comes to mind where he should be proud of being autistic. When those moments happen, keep reminding him that he should be proud. And when you write something this difficult with such compassion and insight, I hope you listen to your brother telling you that you should be proud of yourself. You're a great mother, Tanya! I hope he gets there too. Just keep reinforcing those positive moments, like when he took apart your computer keyboard to let it dry out and then put it back together. That’s definitely an example that comes to mind where he should be proud of being autistic.

When those moments happen, keep reminding him that he should be proud. And when you write something this difficult with such compassion and insight, I hope you listen to your brother telling you that you should be proud of yourself. You’re a great mother, Tanya!

]]> By: kristi http://teenautism.com/2009/02/04/pride-and-self-prejudice/comment-page-1/#comment-3757 kristi Thu, 05 Feb 2009 18:41:45 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=249#comment-3757 I have found a shirt before that says "I have Autism. Be nice to my Mom." My mother got TC one that said..."I am not spoiled, bratty, I am autistic." I understand how you feel. It is hard! I have found a shirt before that says “I have Autism. Be nice to my Mom.”

My mother got TC one that said…”I am not spoiled, bratty, I am autistic.”

I understand how you feel. It is hard!

]]> By: Fearless Females http://teenautism.com/2009/02/04/pride-and-self-prejudice/comment-page-1/#comment-3743 Fearless Females Thu, 05 Feb 2009 14:40:29 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=249#comment-3743 He will get there with your love and support--and he is in full supply of that!! Nick will get there too, I have no doubts!! He will get there with your love and support–and he is in full supply of that!! Nick will get there too, I have no doubts!!

]]> By: kyra http://teenautism.com/2009/02/04/pride-and-self-prejudice/comment-page-1/#comment-3740 kyra Thu, 05 Feb 2009 14:09:13 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=249#comment-3740 i'm with M. the world needs more tanyaness. i swear to you, nigel is taking in the love and acceptance you have for him and one day, he'll reach down and find it and he won't need a t-shirt because he'll have his own skin to wear and wear proudly. i’m with M. the world needs more tanyaness. i swear to you, nigel is taking in the love and acceptance you have for him and one day, he’ll reach down and find it and he won’t need a t-shirt because he’ll have his own skin to wear and wear proudly.

]]> By: mama mara http://teenautism.com/2009/02/04/pride-and-self-prejudice/comment-page-1/#comment-3736 mama mara Thu, 05 Feb 2009 12:37:28 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=249#comment-3736 ((Hug)) With you as his mom, I have no doubt Nigel will come out the other side of this. When my Rocky wonders out loud how much easier life would be with autism, I want to yell "You'd hate it! You'd lose your amazing memory and honesty and ..." But I don't. I let him feel the grief. Autism sucks, and I can't change that. I can, however, help him find a way to be happy anyway. You can too, your Tanyaness! ((Hug)) With you as his mom, I have no doubt Nigel will come out the other side of this. When my Rocky wonders out loud how much easier life would be with autism, I want to yell “You’d hate it! You’d lose your amazing memory and honesty and …” But I don’t. I let him feel the grief. Autism sucks, and I can’t change that. I can, however, help him find a way to be happy anyway.

You can too, your Tanyaness!

]]> By: M http://teenautism.com/2009/02/04/pride-and-self-prejudice/comment-page-1/#comment-3699 M Thu, 05 Feb 2009 02:21:21 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=249#comment-3699 i just had trouble reading this. i sort of read a paragraph, looked a way for a bit, kept reading. that bitterness is such a terrible thing to feel...and it's so hard to go out, see others operating without these barriers, and feel the resentment, bitterness. i'm trying to conjure up magically comforting words, but there aren't any obviously. acceptance can take a long time...it's nice that, whenever he has trouble finding it, you're there expressing it without pause. that counter-balancing positive mindset...that may be all he has sometimes (on bad days)...you, tanya, are amazing. the world needs a lot more tanyaness. i just had trouble reading this. i sort of read a paragraph, looked a way for a bit, kept reading.

that bitterness is such a terrible thing to feel…and it’s so hard to go out, see others operating without these barriers, and feel the resentment, bitterness.

i’m trying to conjure up magically comforting words, but there aren’t any obviously.

acceptance can take a long time…it’s nice that, whenever he has trouble finding it, you’re there expressing it without pause. that counter-balancing positive mindset…that may be all he has sometimes (on bad days)…you, tanya, are amazing.

the world needs a lot more tanyaness.

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