Comments on: When I Told Him http://teenautism.com/2008/12/04/when-i-told-him/ Beyond ABA, after OT . . . what now? Sat, 12 May 2012 16:16:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Tanya Savko – Five Questions Autism Awareness Campaign http://teenautism.com/2008/12/04/when-i-told-him/comment-page-1/#comment-241836 Tanya Savko – Five Questions Autism Awareness Campaign Sat, 11 Feb 2012 20:40:53 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=210#comment-241836 [...] It stunned me. I was not expecting to have this discussion so soon! (I wrote about it in this blog post.) When we got home, I tried to tell him, in the simplest terms I could think of, that he had [...] [...] It stunned me. I was not expecting to have this discussion so soon! (I wrote about it in this blog post.) When we got home, I tried to tell him, in the simplest terms I could think of, that he had [...]

]]> By: Teen Autism » Blog Archive » The Talk http://teenautism.com/2008/12/04/when-i-told-him/comment-page-1/#comment-15448 Teen Autism » Blog Archive » The Talk Fri, 30 Oct 2009 03:16:10 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=210#comment-15448 [...] difficult talks we have to have with our special needs kids. The talk about what autism is, and that he has it, or telling his brother about it. The talk about how sometimes kids are not really your friends [...] [...] difficult talks we have to have with our special needs kids. The talk about what autism is, and that he has it, or telling his brother about it. The talk about how sometimes kids are not really your friends [...]

]]> By: Tanya Savko http://teenautism.com/2008/12/04/when-i-told-him/comment-page-1/#comment-1688 Tanya Savko Mon, 08 Dec 2008 05:14:53 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=210#comment-1688 Everyone, thanks so much. I appreciate your support more than words can say. Everyone, thanks so much. I appreciate your support more than words can say.

]]> By: Jeffrey Deutsch http://teenautism.com/2008/12/04/when-i-told-him/comment-page-1/#comment-1682 Jeffrey Deutsch Sun, 07 Dec 2008 07:21:06 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=210#comment-1682 Hello Tanya, I think you did the right thing, explaining Nigel's situation to him in age-appropriate detail. You then followed up in great style by writing a sort of meta-social story and giving it to him to show others. Kudos to you! We late-diagnosed Aspies tend to find our dxs to be liberating. Sometimes some family members may be disturbed while the Aspies are just fine. I know my dx - and my loving NT wife, Emily - have enabled me to start turning my life around. Nigel is very fortunate to have his autism diagnosed and treated from the start...under the watchful eye of a loving mother like you. Cheers, Jeff Deutsch Hello Tanya,

I think you did the right thing, explaining Nigel’s situation to him in age-appropriate detail. You then followed up in great style by writing a sort of meta-social story and giving it to him to show others. Kudos to you!

We late-diagnosed Aspies tend to find our dxs to be liberating. Sometimes some family members may be disturbed while the Aspies are just fine.

I know my dx – and my loving NT wife, Emily – have enabled me to start turning my life around.

Nigel is very fortunate to have his autism diagnosed and treated from the start…under the watchful eye of a loving mother like you.

Cheers,

Jeff Deutsch

]]> By: Melinda http://teenautism.com/2008/12/04/when-i-told-him/comment-page-1/#comment-1678 Melinda Sat, 06 Dec 2008 21:57:51 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=210#comment-1678 I can totally relate to your angst about the phone ringing and worried about it being the school telling you something else your son did that day that was wrong or inappropriate. I went through years of the same with Noah. It never gets any easier either... Noah recently came out and asked me WHEN he got autism. I explained to him it was probably just something he was born with and then explained to him very simply it just meant he processed things differently in his brain than others might....and added things like you mentioned above....about it being more difficult perhaps to figure out what to say to someone or what to do.....or have super sensitive hearing...etc. I also immediately followed all that with "but that's okay" and "this means you are really good at some things that other people will never understand!" I try to always make Noah realize how unique and special he is.....I hope he knows it. Again I can totally relate to this post in so many ways...... I had to write a book for Noah......a CALM DOWN book. He still grabs it and uses it himself when necessary. Take care! I can totally relate to your angst about the phone ringing and worried about it being the school telling you something else your son did that day that was wrong or inappropriate. I went through years of the same with Noah. It never gets any easier either…

Noah recently came out and asked me WHEN he got autism. I explained to him it was probably just something he was born with and then explained to him very simply it just meant he processed things differently in his brain than others might….and added things like you mentioned above….about it being more difficult perhaps to figure out what to say to someone or what to do…..or have super sensitive hearing…etc.

I also immediately followed all that with “but that’s okay” and “this means you are really good at some things that other people will never understand!”

I try to always make Noah realize how unique and special he is…..I hope he knows it.

Again I can totally relate to this post in so many ways……

I had to write a book for Noah……a CALM DOWN book. He still grabs it and uses it himself when necessary.

Take care!

]]> By: Becky http://teenautism.com/2008/12/04/when-i-told-him/comment-page-1/#comment-1676 Becky Sat, 06 Dec 2008 16:15:55 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=210#comment-1676 I stumbled onto your blog a few weeks ago and I really love it. I have a 7 year old and often worry about the future. You give me a lot of hope! I just had the Autism talk with my son the other night so your post has great timing for me. I just wanted to delurk and say hello. I enjoy your writing! I stumbled onto your blog a few weeks ago and I really love it. I have a 7 year old and often worry about the future. You give me a lot of hope! I just had the Autism talk with my son the other night so your post has great timing for me. I just wanted to delurk and say hello. I enjoy your writing!

]]> By: Colleen http://teenautism.com/2008/12/04/when-i-told-him/comment-page-1/#comment-1675 Colleen Sat, 06 Dec 2008 15:52:06 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=210#comment-1675 I think you did an great job...someday I will blog about the disaster of mine...he still hates me for it. I think you did an great job…someday I will blog about the disaster of mine…he still hates me for it.

]]> By: Lex Savko http://teenautism.com/2008/12/04/when-i-told-him/comment-page-1/#comment-1669 Lex Savko Fri, 05 Dec 2008 20:34:18 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=210#comment-1669 You've told me this story before, but it always moves me. There is absolutely nothing wrong in the way you handled the situation. You needed your time to adjust and Nigel needed his time. You should both be proud of yourselves. You’ve told me this story before, but it always moves me. There is absolutely nothing wrong in the way you handled the situation. You needed your time to adjust and Nigel needed his time. You should both be proud of yourselves.

]]> By: Fearless Females http://teenautism.com/2008/12/04/when-i-told-him/comment-page-1/#comment-1667 Fearless Females Fri, 05 Dec 2008 14:09:16 +0000 http://teenautism.com/?p=210#comment-1667 I think that's great!! You wrote a book for your son. I also think you are much too hard on yourself--you wrote a book but you were angry with yourself for not writing it sooner. No... most parents wouldn't write a book to help their son understand his issues bettter. I think you should publish this book--self-publish online...if you must!! I will buy it! Any yes it is heartbreaking but only when we see their autism as a negative. Everyday I wonder what my non-verbal autistic daughter must think...she cant ask me questions like Nigel and my son can!? Thanks for the links!!! I think that’s great!! You wrote a book for your son. I also think you are much too hard on yourself–you wrote a book but you were angry with yourself for not writing it sooner. No… most parents wouldn’t write a book to help their son understand his issues bettter.

I think you should publish this book–self-publish online…if you must!! I will buy it!

Any yes it is heartbreaking but only when we see their autism as a negative. Everyday I wonder what my non-verbal autistic daughter must think…she cant ask me questions like Nigel and my son can!?

Thanks for the links!!!

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