Comments on: 3 Steps to Ending Chore Wars

By: Tanya Savko

Tanya Savko — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 06:31:09 +0000

It took me a while to get Nigel to do the cat litter! He stuffs paper towels up his nose before he does it.

By: Bonnie Sayers (autismfamily)

Bonnie Sayers (autismfamily) — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 05:40:25 +0000

great tips and rules. I have not really enforced any chores for Nick. I was thinking of showing him how to do the cat litter box since it is his cat one of these days.

He throws out trash and on Friday we worked in the yard and he dusts on Sat mornings.

By: Tanya Savko

Tanya Savko — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 07:10:34 +0000

Thanks, Jeff, I appreciate your input!

By: Jeffrey Deutsch

Jeffrey Deutsch — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 03:29:37 +0000

Hi Tanya,

Good luck to you! As I’ve posted myself, I think a system of rewards and punishments can be just the thing to get an autist/Aspie on track.

Colleen, please give Evan my congratulations. He seems like an honorable young man, and honor is all too rare.

Jeff Deutsch

By: Tanya Savko

Tanya Savko — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 21:09:33 +0000

Wow - Evan actually suggested docking his allowance? Amazing! I’ll try to think positively about this.

Nigel is also on Rocky’s wavelength; I asked him what would motivate him to get his chores done, and he suggested $100 a week. Not even my wusband could afford that!

By: mama mara

mama mara — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 23:54:18 +0000

I look forward to hearing how this works.

My Rocky has been on strike for a few months because the rewards I offer aren’t worth his time. I asked him how much was enough, and he said, “maybe $10 an hour”. Yeah, right.

Plus he can always get things from the wusband if I say he can’t have them.

Wusband=wanker.

By: Colleen

Colleen — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 13:00:36 +0000

Finally, after years of trying to get Evan to do chores (exact words of Nigel from his mouth) all it took was being a freshman and having “fast food Friday” and being able to buy stuff at school. Evan came to me and asked for chores to do for an allowence!

We have a chart in the kitchen, he checks off each task, and he gets paid on Friday…so far, this has been wonderful…not a complaint from him…And even a “mom, dock me $2, I didn’t get the dishwasher unloaded today”

(and then I dropped dead)